Wow, an adoption type post, it's been awhile!

When we were first contacted about Jack, and we met with his birthmother, we were informed that she'd had another little boy S. A year earlier, and he had been placed with a family that we went to our trainings with, and that part of the reason H. chose us, was that she couldn't believe we were still waiting.  When we were in her labor room, I broached the subject of her allowing us to contact the other family.  At that time she said she'd think about it.  About a month after the birth she signed a release that would allow us to contact the other family.  Then I got a little hesitant, not sure why...but we weren't finalized yet and I think I just couldn't handle the idea of what little S. would mean to our family and what we would mean to the other family.  After we finalized I let our caseworker know that it would be ok to give them my email and phone#.

Finally, about a month ago, I checked in with our caseworker and an email from the other fam. had gotten lost in her inbox (I can only imagine how much email she gets a day) so, I emailed S.'s adoptive mom and she was excited to be in touch.  We live close to each other, so close that if the boys ever play soccer they'd likely be on the same team if not the same league, and with the way school districts change boundary lines, they could end up going to the same school.

So here I sit, getting ready to ask her to bring S. to coffee.  I know this woman, we've met twice before, I liked her immediately  I know that God is written all over this, and this is one of those cool things about open adoptions.  We've traded email messages going over our concerns and our expectations, basically saying we shouldn't have any expectations, we're just making it possible for the boys to have a relationship of some kind in the future.

The concerns I have are fairly simple,  what will we all mean to one another, how will this affect their older biological son?  Will this confuse the heck out of my son when he's older? Will S. and Jack like one another?

But, the boys will have a similar history, hopefully H. will re-enter the picture in the future(right now she's chosen to not make contact with the agency to update her address), and they will both have a connection with her and with one another.

Best case scenario in my mind would be a relationship like I had with my cousin, we were buddies, we loved one another, and we took care of one another at school. We saw each other around holidays (not necessarily on the holiday) and we played like crazy at family dinners.  He added a fun and loving extra in my life and that is what I want for Jack.

Ambitious Summer Schedule!

So, Jer was in our friend's wedding and Jack wore his cute new hat n' tie

And then Jack and I stayed in Portand to give my parents some bonding time.  It was pretty fun, but we missed our daddy!  Jack would wake up and I called Jer before he went to work every morning and Jack talked to him, it was really cute, he really got "Daddy" down while we were there.

Our buddies from Pottersville, New York came to visit with all three of their kiddos, this is Owen, their youngest, who I knew about before Jack, but he was born a month later(nearly three weeks past his due date!)

The other two, Gavin and Carley made a new fan in my mom, who LOVES children.

Then I took Jack down to the Washington County Public Services Building to visit Jer's Step Mom, she never had children of her own, and is really enjoying having Jack to show off to her friends.

Later in the week we went to Book Club at Wanda and Jared's (my future SIL and Brother) and Grammma Grammma B. (She thinks Great Grandma sounds old, forget that she's 89...)

I got to talk about my actually finishing a book ("U" is for Undertow by, Sue Grafton) and got recs from others for The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, and Suite Francaise.;

Later that evening he fell asleep on GGB

Then on Friday morning we drove back home to Wa.
Jack was such a good boy!
Stay Tuned for the Medford Road Trip!